May 12, 2001<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I am sending out this story to anyone who will listen. Today men who have proven by paternity testing not to be the biological father are still made to pay child support and are threatened by loss of licenses and even jail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Some ten years ago I married a woman 20 years my junior. This was a second marriage for me and a first for her, with the clear understanding that I did not wish any children out of this marriage. She consented to this and we got married.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Due to medical reasons, my wife was forced to go off medical contraception and we had to revert to less than perfect birth control methods. One day she announced to me that she was pregnant. I immediately asked her to have an abortion to which she initially consented to and for which she was actually scheduled. Later I received phone calls from her Obstetrician with the strong recommendation not to go through with this. After many discussions I felt that I had no choice but agree to this baby even though I was 44 years old at the time and already had one child from my previous marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The child was born premature but did fine and I became a father. Some 2 years later I received a phone call from a person who claimed to have had an affair with my wife and suggested that the child was probably his. I confronted my wife who denied this allegation, stating that this person had been harassing her. I wanted to believe her and agreed to let the issue go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However after some time (2 years to be exact) I again became suspicious and in my desperation taped all phone conversations, unfortunately confirming my suspicion, that indeed she had an affair and was contacting the person, who originally phoned me, calling him the father of the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This led to divorce proceedings, which, without going into details, did wind up in Supreme Court. I could not introduce the telephone taping as evidence and it became quite apparent that the paternity issue was not going to be handled with any speed. The court was more interested in issues of my not paying interim support payments when in fact we were living in the same house and I was taking care of all the payments. The court appointed a legal guardian for the child whose basic concern was to keep the child free from any stress and not to cause and damage to the child\u2019s psyche.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I, seeing that I could not get a paternity test tried to arrange one without the permission of the court, which was stopped when my wife and her lawyer found out about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I was forced to pay child-support and threatened with jail for contempt and was forced to settle the case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Eventually I did get permission for a paternity test, which in fact proved that the child could not be mine, which I shared with the courts, however to no avail. Refusal to do so will result into loss of licenses and possible jail time under state law even though my ex-wife moved to New Hampshire with another man she is now married to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My ex-wife committed adultery and deceived me initially to believing that the child was mine. Any bonding that was established was the result of deception by a woman who carried on an affair not only with the alleged real father but also with her present husband. Yet I am being held responsible for her indiscretions, which, unfortunately affects an innocent child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So here we are in an age where prisoners are getting freed on DNA evidence. It is also a fact that DNA evidence is used to obtain support from fathers who deny being the real fathers. But I who had nothing to do with the conception of this child am being forced to pay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
How about the emotional anguish and financial problems I am facing? It is important that my case should be heard in the single issue that some men today are unfairly treated in paternity cases and a wife\u2019s adulterous affairs cannot be ignored for the welfare of a child. If the legal system believes that for the sake of the child\u2019s welfare a mother\u2019s indiscretions should be hidden and the non-father jailed because he does not wish to support a child who is not his own, we are living in the middle ages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On behalf of other men in situations like mine, I hope that people will listen to this issue and work together changing an unfair legal situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Another man wounded by a fraudulent mother!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" May 12, 2001 Paternity, Divorce and Men\u2019s Rights I am sending out this story to anyone who will listen. Today men who have proven by… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-373","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/paternityfraud.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/373","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/paternityfraud.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/paternityfraud.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/paternityfraud.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/paternityfraud.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=373"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/paternityfraud.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/373\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":387,"href":"http:\/\/paternityfraud.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/373\/revisions\/387"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/paternityfraud.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=373"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}