I, do hereby grant permission to paternityfraud.com to publish the following. Please refer to me as IowaDad.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nHere is just a small part of my story. It’s actually much worse than it appears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My live-in girlfriend told me she was a Christian, she loved me, the baby was mine, and she didn’t want my money. I trusted her. I excitedly came up with the first and middle names, attended and videotaped the birth, and cut the umbilical cord. Shortly after the child was born, she signed a sworn affidavit that I was the father. I signed it too, as if my trust in her was proof of paternity. Since we were not married, the paternity affidavit was necessary to give the child my last name. I trusted this woman and wanted to do the right thing for my child, so I married her when the child was six months old.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I had worked very hard for over ten years, lived frugally, and saved and invested wisely. After 5-1\/2 years of marriage, additional hard work and saving, and providing everything for her, her child from a previous marriage, our child, and another child I believed to be mine, it became obvious that this woman had told me many lies. There had been many instances during the marriage where my trust in her was severely tested, yet I continued to trust her, but it was fading. I even accused her of lying to me about the paternity of two of the three children. I never accused her of lying to me about the paternity of our first child together. It never occurred to me that this was possible. This was the basis of our marriage. This had become the basis of my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We often argued, usually about totally bizarre things going on in her mind. She had no trust in me whatsoever, which I did not understand. On numerous occasions, I hugged her calmly and told her I thought she should seek professional help. She began showing signs of building a case to win custody of the children in divorce, such as attempts to incite me to hit her. Instead of hitting her, I came right out and told her it appeared she was building a case for divorce and custody. One day, she said she was going to her parents to pick up one of the children who had been staying there for a week. This was actually the execution of her long-term plan to kidnap the children, cash in on the marriage, and share the wealth with her destitute parents. I found out this is not only legal, but encouraged by family courts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Next came a wave of affidavits where she, her parents, and other family of hers, made untruthful statements about me doing everything wrong and her doing everything right. I have no idea whether they laughed harder when they wrote them or I did when I read them. But this, and similarly untruthful testimony, was to be the basis of what the court used to make decisions. One of her affidavits actually “proved” that I was no good because, she said, I had accused her of lying to me about the paternity of our youngest child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Soon afterwards, I got a call from my attorney stating that she was claiming I was not the biological father of the child who had been the basis of our marriage. This was five months into the divorce, and after she claimed under oath (again) that the child was mine. She had already told the child. To my dismay, a paternity test revealed that she was not lying about this. Shockingly, I learned that this worked to her great advantage in the custody dispute, which is obviously why she revealed the information. I began to worry that I would never see my daughter (yes, I still call her that) again. I was relieved when I found out that as long as I paid the child support, I could continue to see the child and be her father. Although it seemed like ransom money, I loved my daughter too much to let her go, and be without my badly needed influence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
She testified under oath, twice, that her and the biological father discussed the situation, and decided that since I had more money, they would have me think I was the father. Doesn’t that make it a “conspiracy to commit fraud”, on top of the fraud itself? Not in America, it’s rewarded, at the victim’s expense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of course none of this, nor testimony from unbiased witnesses against her, was adequate to prove her an unfit mother. The custody evaluator used bogus and misinterpreted information to justify her recommendation that the mother should have custody, despite having knowledge that she and her family were lying. This, to my knowledge, leaves a father (but not a mother) essentially no chance of gaining custody.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
She was rewarded with custody, over $100,000.00 in settlement, over $1,000.00 per month in child support, and $500.00 per month in alimony. Despite my approaching $30,000.00 in legal fees of my own, I was also ordered to pay over forty percent of her attorney fees. I was ordered to drive roughly 22 hours per month to see the children, while she was to drive 6 hours per month. This is despite the fact that I work full time, she does not work, and she is essentially retired by my past and future income. I was also ordered to provide health insurance and pay 90% of the uncovered medical expenses. Instead of retiring at age 50, as we had planned, I will work until I die, and be penniless long beforehand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But all of this was not enough. She and her parents were annoyed that I had visitation, that I phoned the children, and that I would not pay up, shut up, and go away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They decided a domestic abuse trap was in order. Once when I picked up the children, they attempted to incite me to hit my ex-wife. When I did not do this, my ex-wife punched me, her mother took over my car, her father punched me, and my ex-wife took my keys from the car. They wrestled me to the ground and called the police. When the police arrived, they each told dramatically different stories about what had transpired, except that they all stated I was the cause. I told the police the truth, and that they routinely lie, even under oath. But, I got to spend the night in jail. I was denied visitation until I took her to court. She even used my having been in jail as “proof” that I should not see the children. I am now facing a criminal trial, which could result in my loss of the few rights I have as a father, civil rights granted to all Americans, and prison. They have already demonstrated their willingness to continue lying in court.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Don’t believe this story? I wouldn’t either, two years ago. What does honesty, hard work, perseverance, faithfulness, and love for his children get an American father today? Slavery and jail, if that’s what the mother wants. What does immorality, perjury, domestic abuse, using children, and paternity fraud get a mother? Money for now, money for later, and money for in between. Crime pays well in Iowa!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What is the most difficult part of this? Beyond forgiving those who did this to my children and to myself, simply because the American “justice” system encourages it, the most difficult part is to accept the permanent damage to the lives of the children, over which I have no control. Please, for the sake of children, fathers, mothers, families, and a better America, help stop paternity fraud.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Thank you for taking the time to read my story. As I finished writing this, I received the following link by email. It was timely. I suggest you click on it now, and then contemplate what action you are going to take to stop paternity fraud.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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